What makes a good blog person?

Note about the pic..

she asked me to write this note to go on top
of the snow mountain in our court.....

sigh:)

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I enjoy reading many blogs
and yes, lots of them are written by moms

a lot of them are Christian moms too
just because we have the same out look on life

I love hearing what their days look like

it is helpful and inspiring to me

but what i have noticed is that some gals
sound so preachy
so legalistic and self righteous

it is such a fine line
the mothering business
this LIFE business really:)

sometimes I wonder is it because
they don't have enough mothering experience
that they come across as so know-it-ally?

I know 2 families with 8 kids
one very legalistic
following the law and the letter
the rules and systems

and the other
seems to live by the spirit
more in the moment
full of grace
and mercy

but generally the more kids
these families have
the more experience they have
with more personality types
more issues to be changed by
just more experience

and i think they do know that
just by sheer #'s we can't police
that many kids
(and we shouldn't want to police)
but be a guide instead

(one can police kids when there are fewer of them)
doesn't make it right though

and again
the family with a couple of kids
can also live by rules and laws
and one can live by the Holy Spirit's leading



ok, maybe i just answered my own thoughts
ha
living by the leading of the Holy Spirit
frees us up to live and love in the moment of
our experiences

to feel the gentle tugs on our souls, to help us discern
in the minutes of our days
what to do
what to say
where to go

there isn't a list of rules to follow
that we are bound to
(praise God for that)

but to live with the law written upon our hearts and minds

I realize this is vague

but i was trying to figure out what rubbed me the wrong way
when reading some of these womens blogs

I surely hope I don't come across like a know at all
preachy pickle

I can only share what I do and why
but my knowledge comes the Bible and other wise women and men

I guess I just want to share the helpful
bits I have found in my parenting experience

my focus is
my heart and the kids heart in all of it

in our days in this life

each kids is different
each situation is different and has different dynamics
and needs

God has given us a brain to think
not follow the rules in the magazine
so
study your kids
study yourself
some parts of ourselves we can change (like how we respond
what we believe, how we see the world)

and some we can't
(shy or outgoing perhaps)

I try not to box myself in
or my kids in

in a box that I think they should be in

I asked Hot Husband if he could remember this quote
from C.S. Lewis (nope, he can't:(

let me paraphrase

"God is not working in your life yesterday
He is not working in your life tomorrow
but He is working in your life today, and it is in these moments
right now, that He can change you.

(something like that...sorry C.S.)


"Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other,
just as Christ forgave you."

Ephesians 4:32